From the article: Why Do Men Cheat?
Have a cheating husband or cheating boyfriend? You're not alone. It's estimated that 50% of married men will cheat on their wives. Talk about your experiences and share advice and wisdom with other women about what to do and what not to do. Tell Your Story
cheating boyfriend and betray
- My boyfriend was going with this other girl ,When found out, he apologized to me but I'm pregnant, otherwise i could leave him. What shall I do? That other girl said he lied to her also because he told her that he didn't have any other girlfriend than her. The problem is, what shall I do with my pregnancy of 5 months now...and the fact that I hate him?
- —Guest tam
How is this my fault???
- Four years of trying to talk myself into believing he was faithful, I did what I could when I could to make him happy. He told me he loved me and told me he wanted to marry me and every time something didn't go his way he said I was kicking him in the face. I was a few months pregnant and lost it in an accident.A few weeks later he cheated on me with an ex from his grade school that I had college classes with. Then cheated on me with his best friend's sister. I was so hurt and so broken I became bitter and decided to do the same thing only with an older man. He then apologized and asked me to start fresh with him. I did and then just recently I went through his cell. Something in my gut told me to get up and look and he was talking to a woman who is married and told her to come to his apartment and screw the hell out of him. I flipped on the light and screamed at him and he looked at me and said you don't want to give me that attention nor allow me to talk to you like that...
- —Guest broken bella
Boyfriends...huh!
- Well, I am 11 years old and I have a boyfriend -- or had one. Today he dumped me because he knew I was going to dump him. This other girl asked him out while I was going out with him and he said yes! Then he dumped me just as I was about to dump him. He also did this to my best friend.
- —Guest leah
Soooo Many Lies I Have Put Up With
- Im 18 and have been dating my boyfriend for over 2 years. A month ago he and his 2 friends got into a huge fight. They really cared about me so they wanted to let me know my bf had been cheating with many girls through our whole relationship. I comfronted him; of course he said no, so I knew he was lying. But I disregarded it not wanting to believe it, but one of his friends insisted they were not lying. Hurt and in pain, I did a disgusting thing. I cheated on him with his friend wanting to see what was so great about cheating WHICH IS NOTHING! I didn't even finish but that's all it took for him to tell me the truth. We broke up but got back together, but to do so I had to show him exactly what I did with and to his friend by doing it to him. I was so humiliated but I did it because I don't love him -- I love the idea of him and what I want him to be. We are still together but I get that sick feeling when I imagine another girl on him when we lay in bed. I feel like a coward.
- —Guest Tiffany
Torture
- I know my boyfriend is cheating on me and lying to me about that. I pretend I am not aware of anything, but I know. I cannot love him anymore, but at the same time I hate to lose him after all this time I am being torn apart by contradictory feelings. But I know I will totally abhor him one day because he never stops lying to me and my anger is growing along with his continuous cheating. You might ask why I am still with him!! Our love is withering away...
- —Guest Mayar
Falling for the best friend...
- My ex boyfriend just happened to be my best friend. I fell in love with him while we were friends but then we decided to act on how we felt. He cheated a week after we were together. After we broke up, I realized I still wanted him. We decided to try again but he turned out to be a loser still. Now that we broke up again, I can't stop thinking about him and I think I still love him even though we never speak Why do I still love him after he lied, used, and cheated on me?
- —Guest nickie
A Broken Heart
- I've always said that I would never fall in love or give any man my heart because of the things I've seen in family as a child. When I met my husband I had a wall up, and he was the greatest man I've ever met. It took a long time before I allowed myself to show him love, and when I did it was great. We had a great sex life and our out-of-bed relationship was great. We faced our problems together. Everything was fine before the marriage. But a year after we were married I found out he was cheating on me. The hardest part was that I was in love with him and he was my first love. I believe that marriage is "til death do us part" and I have forgiven him, However I don't trust him and don't know if I ever will. I take care of him but not like I used to and nothing will ever be close to the good times we had. We tried to get help and I don't think it did much good because there are still some unanswered feelings in me, while my husband acts like nothing ever happened.
- —Guest Kay
Who should I believe?
- I was at school and these girls (who I don't even know) came up to me and asked me if I was going out with Andrew. I said yes, then one of them said that he was cheating on me. When I told him he said that was not true then we heard the girls yelling at us so I said "I wanna get to the bottom of this." I went to talk to them and he said, "I'm not going with you," so I thought he left but when I looked back he was behind me. I put my bag down and talked to them and this one girl told me that she had been going out with him for 2 weeks so I got my bag and turned around and I saw that Andrew was gone. The next day he was not at school. Then we talked about it and he said the truth was that he was not cheating on me and we could break up if I wanted to and I said "No, I don't want to." So we decided to keep going out but I feel like i did the wrong thing. Can someone help me? please? I really love him and I don't want to lose him.
- —Guest stephi
He did it again...
- My boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me again. The first it was with his ex, and when I broke it off with him he would not stop calling to get back with me. Now it's with some girl in his home country. What hurts is that he tells me he loves me 10 times a day, and always makes sure to detail how our life together will be in the future....why ? Why lie to someone like this? I especially find this repulsive because I've asked him to never lie to me, no matter how hurtful he thinks telling the truth may be....lol, little did I know that I was asking a liar to tell me the truth, I shouldn't have believed him to begin with.
- —Guest hurt
I love and hate him at the same time
- After 17 years of being married I found out my husband had been cheating on me for almost 2 years with a woman I though was my friend. A year has passed since I found out about the affair and there are still feelings I have that I can't get past. At times I love him, at other times I hate him. No matter how hard I try I still can't seem to forgive him for the lies and hurtful things he would say to me. I think our relationship has been broken forever and can never be repaired. My next step is to just let go for good and move on.
- —Guest olivia
Boy was I fooled
- I dated a guy for 7 months, during which time he insisted that I was seeing someone else...so I ask him...and he stated " on (his sons name) life I have not been with anyone else since we have been together!" Well 7 months later I personally talked with his other girlfriend...what a fool I was....I kicked him to the curb, but he came back, begging me, writing letters, flowers etc... I took him back,,,and to this day he still thinks and says "are you with anyone else"...I think he thinks I will seek revenge.
- —Guest michelle
My husband broke my heart
- After 20 years of marriage my husband cheated. He thought that I didn't love him any more. When I found out I was crushed. I really do love him but I had forgotten how to show it. I fought for him, for us. I learned the hard way from this to never take the ones you love for granted. I also learned to never assume that he knows how I feel or what I want. You really do have to work on a relationship all the time. You cannot "punish" your lover for making you angry or hurting you. You have to find out why your lover does and says whatever it is that upsets you. You have to make them feel loved and tell them what you need too. It has been almost 7 months and we are still working on us. He says it'll never happen again. I am thankful for every day we are together because sharing our lives is what its all about. Walking away from our marriage would be far worse than an affair. I think too many movies glamorize kicking a man to the curb. Nobody's perfect.
- —Guest Jane
heartbroken over cheating boyfriend
- I'm 18 and was going out with my recent boyfriend for 2 years. He's hurt me in the past and he slept with a girl recently but owned up to it the next day. To say I am heartbroken isn't cutting it. I love him so much and feel as if my heart has been shattered literally. I'd love to give him another chance because of our feelings for each other but the thought of them been together makes me feel physically sick and although I'd forgive him I'd feel less of a person for taking him back and always be affected by it. I'm just in shock and devastated. There doesn't seem to be a meaning to life for me and I can't eat, sleep, or concentrate...help
- —Guest Guesty xx
The Real Reason Men Cheat
- I know something about infidelity; I'm an adulterer and lived to learn from it and now redesigned my marriage to the woman I left for an affair partner following a divorce! Gary Neuman has confused a "dynamic" within affairs for the "cause" of them happening. Yes, men (majority of offenders) do have high significance needs, require emotional affirmation and connection and must feel important to remain monogamous. And yes, the absence of this is often if not always a factor in why affairs happen. But, affairs are always a choice, are always the responsibility of the offender, not the partner, and people are accountable for learning what they need and how to meet those needs within their primary relationships. It's not a spouse's duty to monitor the needs of her husband; it is the husband's job to evolve emotionally, show up for what he says he wants, give up invalidating their partner and relationship and ask for what he needs (see more @ prevent-a-divorce.com)
- —Guest Jay
how about mock cheating?
- What if your guy was just acting he was cheating? Here is what I mean. My guy was with a lady before me, but broke up and then he met me. He kept emailing with her but in a way that did not made it clear he was committed to me. She was thinking he was "free" and he was promising her to meet her. I know he never did. After she learned about me she still was trying to win him over. I'm with my guy for almost 2 years now. He is still loyal, but had a time when he had spent much much time on porn when I was not around. Should I trust him?
- —mercike
We learned what to do from dear old Dad
- My dad never minced words. And he told me and my sisters, "If he cheats on you once, he'll do it again and again." (It took me years to realize he spoke the truth from personal experience as he cheated on my mon throughout their marriage.) Maybe that's why all of us girls have never put up with any of that crap from the guys we've been with. The minute any of us found out, we kicked 'em to the curb. Truthfully, between the three of us, we've kicked a lot of guys to the curb. But my sisters are happily married now and have been for many years. I'm still searching, but I'm the youngest with a big gap between me and my older sisters. So I have a few more years before I hit panic mode. I feel pretty confident that when I find Mr. Right, he'll be a keeper.
- —Guest Debbie
He betrayed my trust
- Tired of the hurt, after 2 1/2 years of his lies, wanting to believe he was not cheating and suffering the pain of being betrayed, I let him go. He would always lie about it at first but then later apologize when the proof was put forward. Even then he would make it out to be that I wasn't giving him enough attention. This never made sense because he was always telling me he loved me and how happy he was up until the times he would disappear. After finding out about him cheating, I would always ask if he felt we should see other people, to which he would always say no. It has really hurt me but not as much as his lying to my face. At this point in my life, I want nothing to do with a man.
- —Guest
