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Readers Respond: Cougar - Positive or Negative Image of Women and Female Sexuality?

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Gotta love Cougars

I don't really care if people like cougars or not, I love a hot cougar. I was in a rut with young demanding women. They want big fancy rings with vows I'm not ready for. Most Cougars aren't really interested in that. Some Guys want to think cougars do want to settle down, this is where young guys get hurt. A good cougars will take care of a young man, sex, vacations, and alot of good times. I never let them think they got me hooked. Keep your GTL going and cougars can be lot of fun. I love the high heeled big titty ones.
—Guest Big Tuck

A resubmition

I recently put in my 2 cents worth and now I'm putting in another 5, I am a cougar, and am damned proud of it. I am 60 years old ,my cub is 44, I don't look my age, I look and feel more like 40 because I take care of myself. I eat the right foods and I exercise. I don't smoke cigarettes and never have. I drink but moderately. I have been encouraged by my other half because he has health problems which a lot of the time he has ED. He knows and appreciates that I am a very sexual woman and always have been. This is the first time I have ever taken him up on his offer to take a younger man as a lover. I did this because I truly like the younger one and am very turned on to him. He is an incredible lover , and he is just fine with this arrangement. Also we have the understanding that if he were to meet someone he wanted to be with that he would have my blessing and my love to be with her.
—Guest kittykat

just became a cougar

I have always dated older men. I am 40 and met a 27 year old recently. I almost didn't go on this date, because of the age difference. Now I am glad I did. The older men most often only thought of what they needed, left me hanging, and might call a week later wanting to " hook up" again. They talk big, but don't prove a thing to me. The younger guy did everything he said he would. It was awesome. Don't knock something until you try it. If it was a man dating a young woman, he wouldn't get the same treatment or looks.
—Guest dee

KitCat

I recently became involved sexually with a young cub who is 16 years younger then I am he is amazing and I am in a committed relationship with a man 3 years younger then myself who encourages me to play with this younger man. If this is whats happening go for it baby, just watch out for the young one who falls in love with you. That can get scary and make sure your heart is secure as well, this can happen. I know from experience.
—Guest Kitty

What is a Cougar?

Is she so much older that she is wasting his time, when he still has the option of building a family?
—Guest bluelights

Oh please!

To Sharri - you're just jealous honey. You probably can't even get men your age let alone a beautiful, viril younger man. My younger man pursued me, is 27 years younger and we have enjoyed 4 years having fun. Try it honey - you'll like it!
—Guest CeeCee

Honey's story

I am married to a 22yr old man and I am 30. We have been together for 2 yrs and we get negative reactions from the public, I get the bill at a lot of dinner dates and get asked if he is my son (the question is accompanied by bizarre looks.) This is not what you would dream of as a woman who just hit thirty... I'm kind of bitter with the sexism that exists in society but I'm in love and so is he.
—Guest honey

Cougar clothes

Speaking as a proud cougar (hotwife) i just thougt I would just to shift the debate away and add a little information and lighten things. There has been a development in recent years of even the high street stores selling cougar fashion T shirts, hot pants etc. These started out as fun novelty items but the quality of the garments has changed indicating that more women are prepared to advertise their cougar status. traditionally we could wear cougar animal print clothing or underwear but it is not to everyones taste. Another development that I came across in a hedonism resort in the caribean among fellow cougars in summer 2011 was the wearing of Zebra print clothing, bikinis and underwear to indicate a white womans desire to have sex with young black men. Actually I came across a group of much younger woman also using this "display" on the last day of our holiday there. Don't know if this was a summer fad or something more substanial.
—shamrockhotwife

Cougar

I am sure society thinks of Cougars in the most negative of terms. For whatever reason older women are supposed to be a grandmotherly type or a ‘Plain Jane’; not the sexually exciting, sexually excited, or sexual human being. It may also include the idea that when a man marries, he is supposed to be with a woman who can bare his children – Cougars are viewed as being post menopausal or have children that are grown, on their own, and out of the her home. She is generally divorced or widowed and perhaps as ‘used up’. I do not, but I am sure many are… Men in the same position are considered 'a Stud', a Sugar-daddy, or a Dirty Old Man. Our society is accepting for an older man with a much younger woman, this includes dating, shacking, or marrying her. It is probably sexist or biased, or discriminatory. Either way, it is wrong. Personally I think this conditions are changing, but not quickly enough.
—Guest bubbadave

cougar woman

I believe totally in the cougar theory because I am one and love it...I enjoy men 10 years younger or more...I'm 63 and look and act 10 plus yrs younger so am able to attract the younger ones easily... With a young slim and trim body I look fantastic in or out of clothes. Whoopie for the cougars!!!!
—blubrdgirl529

Just share the love & be happy!

He's 21 & I'm 45. He persued me for several months. I've been married 3x's & have 3 children. Which 2 girls are of his age range 19 & 21. I tried getting my daughters interested in him as he is extremely gorgeous intellegent and just a great catch, but they have found no interest in him. Finally after 5months we met at the beach. We later had dinner & the rest is history. He is so sexy & mature. We talk all the time & care to please each others needs. He finds interest in my life style as I find interest in his. We go out & are unsepearable. He's the sweetest thing ever to come my way. He's a vet that served for our country on the frontline. He has his own apartment & always covers the tap when we go out. He's very much intereset in ME & what is going on in my life as I am in his Yes the sex is amazing I do admit & I do plan to enjoy every moment we share together. Ladies & Gentlemen, life is just too short! We have to live & let live! Everyone shud just chill & trust ur feelings.
—Guest cougarbeingchased

cougar?whatever!

Reading some of the negative comments, I was not surprised (but annoyed) to find most of them from women - presumably ones whose men left them for older women. But really, what's it got to do with you if a young man wants to sleep with/have a relationship with a woman more than 10 yrs older than him? Presumably he's over 18 and old enough to look after himself, and she certainly is. When did society decide that anything over a 10 yr age gap between lovers is wrong? I fully intend to go cougar on any young man who is happy for me to blow his mind, and maybe if women his own age weren't silly, immature, jealous, confused, game-playing, boring little twats, they'd stand a better chance of getting him. For the haters, it's nothing but jealousy. And men don't like uptight, jealous, silly little girls, so they go for 'cougars' - or as I like to call them, WOMEN.
—Guest notquitecougar

hooked on cougers.

I for one absolutley love cougers. Whats so wrong about helping out a lonely housewife just looking for a little one to me fling to get her batterys recharged so to speak. Personally I'd take a nice curvy cougar over most girls my age (20). I've only had two encounters with beautiful older women, one 50 (my first) and 46. Both were extreamly talented sexually. My first experience was with dare I say it... My dads exwife, she used to be my stepmom for a couple years, I was 17 when they got married. She was always very nice to me. Once I was 18, their marrige was getting starting to get rocky.. My dad works all day then comes home eats dinner and goes to straight to bed and watches tv/on his computer. Me and... i'll call her, Dee. Well before it all happend, it started out with her being really flirtacious around me. Always brushing her (absolutley INCREDIBLE perfect round) ass against me when walking past me, then started always wearing her tight shirts without a bra on, and little booty shorts almost everyday that summer that my dad was at work, and i'd always be sure to be up at 7am every weekday morningt I was home for breakfast, she would always wear her short silk night gown around the house in the mornings. She'd bend over right infront of me just to tease me. I started eventually getting more ballsy to attempt to well how should I say, want me... I'd sit on the couch near her with a half chub buldging through my jeans and whenever id notice her look down at it (happend about once every couple minutes) I'd start rubbing it, and act like I didn't notice her staring. Shed of course return the favor and make an excuse to bend over, like looking for dvd movies under the entertainment center , even though we had the worst dvd selection ever. Her ass was amazing to say the least. Perfection I would say. Big, firm, and she had perfect 36c tits that were still albeit perky. We only went at it about 3 times before the slip up. and after shed always send me nudes in text. My dad doesn't know still to this day either.
—Guest cougerbait

Not just about sex

I am 35 and my boyfriend is 24. It seems that the perception of older women is that they date younger men mainly for sex. My boyfriend and I are both Christians and are only planning to sleep together if we get married one day. I think for me the 'younger man' thing is just related to personality. All of my boyfriends have been younger than me, but I that wasn't a deliberate decision on my part, it just seems that I get on better with younger guys. Sometimes there can be issues with the age gap but on the whole I think it's fine, and no-one who knows us has a problem with it.
—Guest 11 years older

Love in the first degree

Its really nice to hear that society is changing their views on this type of relationship, they have been going on for time in secret from what i know. anyway i was in a 13yr age gap relationship and all the talk and nastiness of other people caused me to have a nervous breakdown even though i went on to have 2 children with him. well that relationship lasted about 8 years and i have now just started a relationship with someone 17 years younger and i do not give a s*** what anyone says, because we get on like we are made for each other, our personatlities are so compatable, i feel like i have been waiting for him all my life and he treats me with so much respect and regard and he is the epitomy of what a real man should be, i've met older men a lot less mature than him, believe me. But its so nice that people are not realising that adults (over 18) are adults and should be able to date whoever they wish without being slagged off by mindless idiots. ignore the haters, its just jealousy
—Guest couldntgiveacougarwhattheysay

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