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Address it directly...and humor helps

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From what would i know im just a man...hehe

What I Did:

I'm a high school student in the country and I have noticed a lot of sexist comments and jokes directed at girls, such as a friend and I joining a conversation with some guys only to be asked, "Did your chain break?" (referring to women being chained to the sink.) When I didn't say anything, another guy said, "They never get it do they?" and laughed at us.

How I Did It:

I replied, 'We got it, it just wasnt very funny actually," which was funny because his friends just looked at him like he was a big jerk. He shut up for the rest of the conversation, which kind of turned into a joking discussion about sexism. Like the nicer guys joking about saying, "Yeah women belong in the kitchen ay," and laughing at the silliness of the statement ,and us girls saying, "Well no action in the bedroom then," which was different to the way that the first guys responded to our arrival to the conversation, which was genuinely offensive because he was serious

Lessons Learned:

  • Address the statement promptly and publicly

Linda Lowen, Women's Issues Guide, says:

I think you handled this beautifully, and I surely didn't have the skills you've demonstrated when I was in high school. Guys seem to expect that girls will role with the punches when these kinds of statements are made, and you were able to dish it back while letting them know how you felt about their sexist attitudes. You're so right -- address the statement promptly. When you do, you assert yourself and you make it clear that you're not someone to take lightly.

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