Like most people who are curious about how others live and think, I love a good debate. Especially when the participants can passionately argue their case without putdowns, demeaning language, swearing and/or nastiness. I've also learned a great deal from friends whose views are diametrically opposed to mine. But this can only happen when mutual respect underlies the conversation.
One prominent conservative woman in Hollywood I've written about is Patricia Heaton. You can't help but feel empathy for her when she discusses how her upfront Christian views have lost her jobs and acting roles. So I found myself deeply disappointed when I learned about her tweets attacking Georgetown law student Sandra Fluke. They weren't just digs -- they were crude insults in the same vein and tone as Limbaugh's comments.
Heaton's reputation has surely suffered as a result. To see one woman target another with such deliberate viciousness was sad and unexpected. I expected better from her. Although she apologized and later deleted her insults, apologies don't erase the ugliness of her words. Even she admitted, "I was not showing Christ's love."
The Daily Beast has the whole story plus the screen shots of her original tweets as they appeared on Twitter. If you can't quite make out the fine print, Mix106.5FM has a transcript of the deleted tweets.
Even the most charitable among us has been stirred up by this controversy and tempers are running hot. The lesson behind Heaton's mistakes -- if you lose your head, don't lose your integrity as well.
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