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By Linda Lowen, About.com Guide to Women's Issues

John McCain, Hillary Clinton and the "B" Word

Wednesday November 14, 2007
Yes, everybody's talking about the use of the "B" word and presidential candidate John McCain's response (or lack thereof) to its use Monday at an appearance in Hilton Head, South Carolina. And yes, John McCain 'shoulda, woulda, coulda' done better in his response to the question.

But let's not crucify McCain.

The blame rests just as heavily on the woman who used it. Who is she?

Look at the video and you get a sense. She's blonde with her hair stylishly pulled back to reveal a fine-featured face. She's carefully dressed, crisply tailored in her beige suit and cream blouse, scarf knotted at the neck. She wears simple gold earrings and speaks in a low, cultured-sounding voice. All details indicate she has sufficient breeding to know better.

Yet she drops the B bomb and there's the sound of laughter.

Don't tell me that women are down with calling each other "bitches." Don't tell me that the use of it is dope.

This woman appears to be in her late 50s or early 60s, and as far as I can see, that age group isn't into slapping each others' butts and referring to their sistahs as "bitches."

This is just as bad as the "N" word and don't tell me that it's okay when used by one woman referring to another. It's not.

Yes, John McCain made a huge mistake. Yes, John McCain should have known better and should have said, "I'm happy to answer your question but there's no need to use that to refer to a female opponent of mine. We're all better than that."

But what about the woman who said it? She's the one who needs a serious gender-sensitivity intervention. Either that, or plastic surgery, because I can't imagine how she can dare show her face in a crowd of women ever again.

Comments

November 14, 2007 at 5:56 pm
(1) Stan says:

Fully agreed. However, in all fairness to Sen. McCain (who has absolutely NO control over who asks questions or what their question is — UNlike at Hillary’s “question” sessions — and who was plainly taken aback by the question), he did plainly speak of his “respect for Sen. Clinton” — as he has so many times during the campaign –or “whoever may become the Democrats’ nominee”

November 14, 2007 at 6:02 pm
(2) Susan says:

You are certainly right on target, but one can’t blame Sen. McCain for some woman’s out-of-line wording in her question. John McCain, in fact, has always spoken of his genuine admiration and respect for Senator Clinton, as he did in replying to this woman’s question.

November 14, 2007 at 11:36 pm
(3) c says:

I consider myself a well brought up female with respect being something that is usually offered freely. Most people are given the respect they deserve until they do something to lose it.
Now you may think I am speaking of the lady (?) who called Hillary the “B” word, but in all honesty, anyone who observes and tries to maintain an impartial view of politicians, knows that Ms. Hillary more often than not, IS a b****! I think the Senator handled it as humorously as possible without adding to the opinion… Perhaps Senator McCain does not always worry being politically correct. Quite honestly, he seems to be the only true (red white&)blue candidate with the honesty and integrity needed to lead this country and regain the pride and morale that is lacking at the present time. I for one, believe the Senator handled the remark rather well, and simply moved on.
..The media of course, must grasp at anything of interest and stir up as much controversy as possible. which is clearly what happened here.
I am not convinced about who I am going to vote for as yet. But is sure as heck is not going to be Hillary the B****!

November 14, 2007 at 11:50 pm
(4) Ray says:

Would he have reacted the same way if someone had been asking about Obama and said, ‘How do we beat the n****r?’. No. So there you go.

November 15, 2007 at 4:14 pm
(5) Laura Jones says:

This woman as a voter has the right to her opinion and she is not the only women to call Hillary a b*tch. Calling another woman a bitch isn’t anti-women.

McCain was under no obligation to defend Hillary in this situation.

I believe in equal rights for all women but I am tired of the uber feminists, on the fringes of the lunatic left, who claim to speak for all women. They certainly don’t speak for me. This group is trying to make a story out of this when one doesn’t exist. This has been hyped by the Pro Hillary crowd.

November 15, 2007 at 7:26 pm
(6) Sandi Roberts says:

I’m happy with McCains response. McCain, a gentleman, treated the woman as if she were a lady. Maybe the woman, a showoff?, has the attention she wanted.
Sandi (a Blue Dog Democrat)

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